Date: 2018-02-22 14:28
I was dating this guy I was working with for slightly over a month. It went extremely fast and was very intense- lots of butterflies and passion and warm fuzzies all around. Not all of that time was completely awesome- there were times he 8767 d commit to something and back out after the last minute with an excuse like he had no gas or money to come see me. He would also text me that he felt I didn 8767 t really want what he wanted- a future, white picket fence, etc. I tried to explain (in person) that until we had time to develop to that level that I could say I wanted that (white picket fence) in my life in the future, but I didn 8767 t want to say or commit immediately to something that might turn out to be a lie. We got into a fight a few days after one of those conversations and what was also after a period of time where we didn 8767 t see much of each other aside from work- five days, actually. He couldn 8767 t make it to my house over the weekend for the aforementioned gas/money issue when I tried to make plans, and it turned out I had plans with my best friend (and roommate- no, not a guy) and an out of town guest staying at our place for most of the rest of the week. Anyway, the argument ended when I told him that if he couldn 8767 t respect my autonomy when it came to decisions about my health and body then he could get the f*** out. He took my word for it and told me fine, he was gone. I called and texted him throughout the next day to try and talk things out, but he ignored every attempt to contact him. I was devastated, and also a bit pissed. He texted me after I had already gone to bed later that night. I went out of town the day and didn 8767 t respond to anything he sent me throughout the day until I got home and we proceeded to get into another argument via text. It wasn 8767 t resolved in any kind of manner. He came into work the next day and proceeded to completely ignore that I existed, and close to the end of my shift he went to his (not mine) supervisor and proceeded to accuse a co-worker and I of sabotaging his work. I can honestly say we did no such thing- I didn 8767 t even mention that we had been dating to anyone, let alone that we had broken up. People still knew, mostly cause he couldn 8767 t quit talking about it. Anyway, he walked out of his shift that night. The next night he did acknowledge I existed, and I tried to respond minimally and civilly. He ended up walking out of that shift too, claiming that he was being made fun of every time he entered mine and my-co-workers primary work area. That wasn 8767 t true either- we were joking around and laughing, but not about him at all. They fired him after that. He texted me a day or after basically deriding my character and maintaining his accusations, no matter how much I tried to claim innocence. During this whole 8775 bad 8776 period I had intended to attempt to talk and possibly reconcile with him, but never got a chance while defending my integrity. Another period of time passed- about a week or so, and then he called me asking for some of things back, and I agreed to return them and again attempted to try to talk things out, but he was still convinced I had more or less caused his losing his job. Another week went by, and I texted him merry christmas- responded saying he missed me and knew the breakup was his fault, but made no mention of getting back together, just said he hoped I was doing well and he didn 8767 t want ruin my day by saying anything else. I texted back and tried to express that I wasn 8767 t angry at him and just wanted to know what had happened. That ended with a long text by me that went unanswered until a *censored* over a week later when he texted me asking if I wanted my things. I said yes, and my roommate and I went up to get my things, which he suddenly couldn 8767 t find. He admitted the whole dang thing was his fault and thought I could do better than him- I told him I didn 8767 t want to do that and that I really had just wanted to talk things out if possible. He kissed me a couple different times and the night ended on a hopeful note, though I still didn 8767 t have my things. He texted me on my way back home that he had found my things. I called the next night after I got off work and asked if I could pick them up- he sighed and said it was last time he was gonna see me. I told him that depended, but he hung up at that point. I got my things, and he told me to have a goodnight. I left, and circled back around and asked him if he really thought I gave a s*** about the 8766 stuff 8767 - I had made no attempt to get it back and wrote it off as lost. He said he had just taken a job nearer to where I lived so he could see me more easily, and at that point I thought it prudent to mention my roommate had banned him from the house- she owns it and I pay rent, so really, it was up to her. At everything kinda dissolved after that, he said that in that case nothing could go anywhere with us, and accused me of putting myself on 8766 the victims side 8767 of the situation bringing up the whole ordeal from work again. When I asked for clarification about what exactly he meant he said, I quote, 8775 this is bulls***, you can 8767 t even admit it! Goodnight. 8776 And literally left me outside in the cold. I left after that and later texted him asking if he still wanted to be with me despite all the stuff that 8767 s happened up to that point. No answer for a few days now- honestly, I just want to know if I should expect us to be able to work things out or not. I feel heartbroken and like I 8767 m being played at the same time, but I 8767 d take the chance if it were presented all the same. We had what I feel was a highly passionate connection while we were together and I was beginning to fall in love with him. What do you think the chances of getting back together are?
So me and my ex- bf were together for over a year and half. We moved in after 5 months dating with his sister and her bf close to the end of the lease we started arguing, then we moved in with his friend and his gf. All he started to do was nap a lot and play his computer with his friend all the time. He cut down on being sexual active with me and we would get into petty arguments over stupid stuff. We only had a 6 month lease with them. Then we moved in with my mother she needed help and I know he didn 8767 t want to but be did it because my mother needed it. Well ever since we moved in are fights became more frequent and he started to get even less sexual active with me. It hurt and I would get mad at him all the time and we would dight all the time. Then it got worse when he completely stopped being sexual active. In not obbsessing over sex but that 8767 s what two people do to show emotion and physical attraction. Well he barely talked to me and I had to start begging for him to even hangout with me. Are lease was almost up and we were planning on moving out together then one night I asked are we getting a place together still and he kept saying idk idk then I asked him do you still want to be with me and he said idk ( I was hurt by this ) so I asked him again a yes or no answer and he pauses and quietly said no. I asked him if he could please leave and he did. Then the next day he grabbed some clothes and his computer and told me to give him time. I told him over a month ago that I loved him and he couldnt say it back he didnt say anything just that he knew I loved 8767 m so heart broken I didn 8767 t talk to him for 9 days then finally I couldnt wait any longer to talk. We met up and talked he started getting mad and yelling at me saying how come I didnt see it or why it took so long for me to be willing to change and not get so mad all the time ( I forgot to add that he 8767 s not really emotional and doesn 8767 t talk about him feelings a lot he keeps alot to him self) he got upset and startes to get out of my car and I grabbed his arm crying and pleading please don 8767 t go and he said he had to. I about panicked I hopped out of my car into his and sat on his lap crying my eyes out telling him I loved him and he means so much to me he said he cares about me a lot and I was like I love you and he said I love you to for the first time ever. I said I was sorry it didnt go the way things were he said he needs time for him self. He needs to work on things alone I asked why cant we work together and he said no he has to do this by himself. I was so heart broken I sat on his lap crying telling him how much I care about him and telling him I dont want you to do this and he said he didnt want to do this but he had to. He told me we can still be friends and that we will hangout I also asked him if once in a while he would come stay the night (just lay there not do anything) and he said yes. I told him maybe its best if were friends and work back to the way we were and he said yes. He told me he has hope for is later but not right now. (I asked him if he missed me the 9 days we didn 8767 t talk and he said yes.)He said he had to go and I grabbed him and hugged him and told him I love him so much and he was like I love you so much to. He hugged me tightly back and I asked him if he could wait till I left first and he said yes. That night I texted him told him I loved him and that I will always be here for him he replied same goes for you I hope you know that.
I havent talked to him since then and this happened saturday im so hurt and I cant stop crying. He told me give him a week before we start talking again. (How do I deal with this???)I dont know what to do I can 8767 t stop thinking about him and I keep checking my phone for him to text me. Does he miss me? He told me hes there for me but how can I talk to him if its about us he knows how I feel and he still left in hurt so much its killing me I havent been able to eat or sleep properly. I don 8767 t wanna wait but I know I have to I cant get him out of my mind. His close friend told me we were around each other to much and said we just need time apart. Everyone I talk to tells me give him space he misses me and thinks we will get back together. Its so hard from one point seeing him every day talking every day to nothing at all. I want him back so bad. It hurts so much and I don 8767 t know what to do all I can do is give him time and wait for him to talk to me again. Please any advise or what you think will help me.